The Rabbi Hyman Judah Schachtel wrote in "The Real Enjoyment of Living":
Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.
On the outside that seems like an over-simplification. Could I be happy with a fatal disease or the tribulations of Job? Can I be happy with co-workers, friends, associates and situations that I perceive to fall short of my expectations?
Everyone struggles and everyone suffers. It is inescapable and there are many angry folks that justifiably may cry foul, yet...
I guess I could add any of the big or bad things together but by the end of my life will many of them have been so bad or even that big?
Thanks for reminding me.